How do you deal with setbacks?
Do you:
- Roll over and think ‘that’s it - it’s too hard, might as well give up now'.
- Decide to roll your sleeves up, get stuck in and push through.
- Throw a tantrum and create a drama out of it.
My guess is you may have done all of these at various stages
of your life in differing circumstances depending on your level of emotional
engagement and maturity. And, hopefully, you’ve learned to handle setbacks a
little differently now.
I came across a great quote the other day which I think sums this up:
“ Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger
and more resilient.” Steve Maraboli
Of course there is a choice with this – you have to choose
to grow stronger and be more resilient so that you thrive rather than survive
from one crisis or setback to another.
It’s your capacity to respond constructively to adversity
that builds your resilience. It’s not about coping or surviving but about
harnessing the opportunities that lie within the situation and your own
capability.
Are you reacting to what life throws at you or are you
responding to what life throws at you? The latter is the one that will allow
you to grow so I thought I’d also share Paul Stoltz CORE questions
which are designed to help you build resilience:
Control – What facets of the situation can I/we/you
potentially influence?
Ownership – How can I/we/you step up to make the most
immediate, positive difference?
Reach – What can I/we/you do to minimise the potential
downside? Maximise the potential upside?
Endurance – What can I/we/you do to get past this as quickly
as possible?
The next time you are faced with a setback take a step back
and take time to respond rather than react and consider what is it trying to
tell me? Which of the above questions can I apply to move forward?
“Persistence and resilience only come from having been given the
chance to work through difficult problems.”
Gever Tulley
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